Compiled by Dave Oswald Mitchell
Briarpatch Magazine
March/April 2007
HEY, YOU WITH THE Y CHROMOSOME: DO YOU BELIEVE that women and men should have equal rights and opportunities? If so, then you may have what it takes to become a pro-feminist man.
The fight against sexism needs men who are willing to educate and challenge themselves and others. But taking a stand against sexism can be easier said than done. From a very young age we have internalized our culture’s hatred and fear of the feminine. Men and women alike have been socialized in a sexist society, and many of us carry the scars to prove it. We all have sexism inside of us, and getting rid of that sexism can be a long and sometimes painful process.
Men enjoy countless benefits from living in a patriarchal society. But we also suffer from the social and emotional constraints that masculinity places on us. We have much to gain from ending sexism and breaking down strict gender roles.
This initial self-screening questionnaire may help you identify some ways that patriarchal and sexist norms influence your attitudes and behaviour. Identifying these blind spots is the first step to becoming a better ally. Be patient with yourself; answer each question honestly, and analyze your own responses. What do you feel, and why do you feel it? If there are things you would change about your own attitudes and behaviour, what are the barriers that might keep you from changing? How can you overcome these barriers?
You may want to discuss this questionnaire and any issues it brings up with women (or men) whom you trust. But beware: men have a tendency to either burden women with our emotional needs or withhold our feelings entirely. Please think carefully about your intentions before discussing this questionnaire with women in your life. Are you doing it because you feel guilty, or because you really want to change? Are you seeking validation, or real guidance?
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